When you create your life from the sacred self, the deeper self, you create and live consciously. When living consciously—living with awareness—you become more aware of what you are creating in your life.
You become aware of what your spirit is creating for your highest good. You begin to understand that so many of those so-called bad things that happen are because at a spirit-soul level you have called them in. Your spirit-soul may have asked to have an experience to facilitate your growth, to heal an old wound, to gain the energy of the experience to help heal others.
Your local life may not particularly like the experience, may even fight the experience or try to ignore it or push it away or even get caught up in the victim role.
The bottom line truth is you are the creator of your life, and yet you are not in control. The spiritual path is not about control of life. It is about the mastery of your life. Control is holding ridged; mastery is flowing.