When you live with awareness of your life, you begin to understand how your thoughts, words, and actions affect others. This is not to say you should be concerned about how others think of you. Of this you have no control. Others see you through their own filters, or lack thereof. It is to say you are to be concerned how your choices affect the all—people, animals, winged ones, trees, the planet, the universe—and yourself.
If your thoughts poison another, they also poison you. If your deeds hurt the planet, they also hurt you. If your words throw anger at another, the anger comes back on you. If you give to another, others will give more to you. If you think kindly of another, others will think kindly of you. If you reach for understanding and compassion for another, others will find understanding and compassion for you.
Ask yourself who you want to be, and then watch yourself as you live your life. Are your words in alignment with who you want to be? Are your deeds? Are your thoughts? When you are not in alignment with who you want to be, be conscious of making a different choice, being kind with yourself as you do.
Who do you want to be? Do you want to be a powerful person? A strong person? A compassionate person? A person with healthy boundaries? A person who loves rather than judges? A person who understands rather than angers? A person who lives in harmony and not fear? A respectful person? A wealthy person? A fun person? A loving person?
The choice is yours.