Phillip’s Wisdom on the Mastery of Life

When you create your life from the sacred self, the deeper self, you create and live consciously. When living consciously—living with awareness—you become more aware of what you are creating in your life.

You become aware of what your spirit is creating for your highest good. You begin to understand that so many of those so-called bad things that happen are because at a spirit-soul level you have called them in. Your spirit-soul may have asked to have an experience to facilitate your growth, to heal an old wound, to gain the energy of the experience to help heal others.

Your local life may not particularly like the experience, may even fight the experience or try to ignore it or push it away or even get caught up in the victim role.

The bottom line truth is you are the creator of your life, and yet you are not in control. The spiritual path is not about control of life. It is about the mastery of your life. Control is holding ridged; mastery is flowing.

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Hurt Feelings No More

We’ve all been there—someone says or does something that hurts our feelings—a look or word that tears into our self-esteem. But it doesn’t have to be that way. We can be sensitive human beings and care what others think of us and still not get our feelings hurt all the time. In fact, always getting our feelings hurt may mean we are living in a state of self-absorbed sensitivity, which can cause people to feel they have to walk on eggshells around us. We end us keeping intimacy at arm’s length when in fact what most of us want is just the opposite. We want to be close to people and to be liked by others.  So how do we let down those defenses and stop getting hurt by what others say or do?

Three ways to stop getting your feelings hurt are to consider the source, don’t take it personally, and believe in yourself. Let’s take a more in-depth look at each of these.

Consider the source

Suppose you are at a party, and you overhear two women talking about what a jerk that man in the blue shirt is. You’re wearing a blue shirt, so you think they are talking about you. You get your feelings hurt.  What should you do? Should you confront them? Slither away in hopes they don’t see you? Or look around until you see another man in a blue shirt and assume they are talking about him? Actually, you don’t want to do any of these. Instead, you want to remember the old adage your mother always told you when you came home from school and one of your classmates had said something nasty about you: Consider the source.  Wise mother.

Some people just like to talk about others and what they have to say may not be flattering. These people forgot what their mothers told them: If you can’t say something nice about a person, don’t say anything at all. Ignore them and remember this: When we are not engaged in the fullness of our own lives, we tend to see fault in the other. 

But what if the source is a good friend or even your spouse? The same still holds true—consider the source. If the source is someone close to you, also consider the motive. Is he angry and just trying to blame you? Is she trying to change you into what she wants you to be? The source may have a hidden agenda that he or she isn’t even aware of. Whatever the case, remember: When we are not engaged in the fullness of our own lives, we tend to see fault in the other. Certainly there are good friends and spouses who have our best interest at heart, and to these people we should carefully listen. When we consider the source, we are able to determine if the other is truly trying to help us or acting out of their own agenda.

What if the source is in a position of authority, such as a boss or teacher? In a perfect world, all people are kind to and considerate of one another. Since we do not live in a perfect world, people in authority may be having a tough day or they may have issues in their lives that play out in their interactions with you. Again, consider the source, and you will be able to cut them some slack and compassion to see their point of view and stop getting your feelings hurt. And you just might learn something as well once you drop your defenses, which you can do when you no longer worry about getting hurt.

When you feel yourself getting your feelings hurt, stop for a moment and consider the source. You just might find the other person truly does have your best interest in mind. Or you might find the other person’s comments aren’t worth listening to. Either way, when you consider the source, you stop getting your feelings hurt.

Don’t take it personally

In his book, The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz advises, “Don’t take anything personally.”  Master this advice and you’ll stop getting your feelings hurt. Ruiz writes, “Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.”

Suppose you get your long hair cut. You feel confident and pretty, but when you get home the first thing your spouse says is, “What did you do to your hair?” This isn’t what you wanted to hear, so your feelings are hurt. But you can avoid hurt feelings by stepping back and, as Ruiz says, do not take the comment personally. Regardless of how close you are, you and your spouse live in different worlds. Perhaps in his world he equates the depth of your love for him with the length of your hair. If you take his comment personally, you’re apt to withdraw. If you don’t take the comment personally, you are able to avoid getting hurt and perhaps even opening a discussion between the two of you that takes you to a new level of communication and intimacy.

Believe in yourself

The third way to stop getting your feelings hurt is to believe in yourself. When you believe in yourself—truly believe in yourself—you are able to step back from what another says about, or to, you and evaluate the validity of the comment or action. Certainly, we all want to be liked by others, but if you believe in yourself, what another says will have less impact than if you are waiting for the world to approve of you.

Getting your feelings hurt by others is not a given in life, quite the opposite. If you just remember to consider the source, not take the other’s words or actions personally, and to believe in yourself, not only will you be able to stop getting your feelings hurt, but you will also find life is a whole lot sweeter and people are more fun to be with. And guess what? They are thinking the same about you!

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Are You Choosing Enlightenment or the Destruction of Happiness? The choice is yours.

Are you seeking enlightenment, or do you prefer to act and react only in human form? Are you growing into being a Bodhisattva or are you stuck in unhappiness?

A Bodhisattva is one who is on the path to awakening or one who has awakened. Quan Yin, the Buddha, Jesus, the Creator, Muhammad, and others are Bodhisattvas. Many, such as Quan Yin, have chosen to stay in Earth’s energy to support the rest of us for mutual enlightenment.

Following are the traits of the ones who are seeking enlightenment followed by the destructive traits.

The 10 qualities for the Bodhisattva that lead to enlightenment are:

  • Generosity
  • Virtue
  • Renunciation
  • Patience
  • Energy
  • Resolve
  • Loving-kindness
  • Truthfulness
  • Wisdom
  • Equanimity

Cicero said, “Self-centeredness fuels destructive actions.” Here is Cicero’s list of destructive actions.

  • The illusion that personal gain is made up of crushing others.
  • The tendency to worry about things that cannot be changed or corrected.
  • Insisting that a thing is impossible because we cannot accomplish it.
  • Refusing to set aside trivial preferences.
  • Neglecting development and refinement of the mind, and not acquiring the habit of reading and study.
  • Attempting to compel others to believe and live as we do.

What traits we chose will lead us to enlightenment or to the destruction of any true happiness in our lives. The choice is ours to make. We do so with our every thought and action.

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Thought Shapes Our Reality

Our realities are shaped by events we have already lived through. If we die in the illusion of war, we may need to experience war again in this life to change the thinking. It is the thinking that makes it so, and then the action will follow. This is not to say everyone who has experienced war in another life will experience it again. The soul may choose a different experience, but if the thinking is stuck in war, then that shall be the experience until the thinking changes.

The same is true if we die after living a peaceful life of love. We may choose to return to human life to add love to the world. Or we may choose to experience fear so we can bring love back into our lives and the lives or others. We may also choose to not return to this dimension knowing that our work here is completed.

The spirit continues when the body has been put aside, so the spirit has the choice to change the illusion or to continue it. The mind and the spirit are the consciousness of the being, so the thinking does not change just because the body does. The soul, which is the storyline of each being, is given the opportunity to grow and learn and to change the thinking to correct any third-dimension illusion. This is not so different from life in body on Earth.

The choice is within each being, with each choice changing the collective whole, because in truth there is only one being experiencing multiple expressions. Even the smallest change ripples through the entire body of the whole.

That said, we emphasis the importance of each person to examine their thinking. It is with each thought that war or peace is created, that love is chosen over fear, that the heart is opened to greater dimensions or is it being closed?

Every human’s need is to learn love, which is the truth of who we are.

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10 Ways to Help Stop Violence

As children we played outside, rode our bikes around the neighborhood without fear, played in the woods with safety, and spent hours in school studying instead of worrying about being shot by another student.

As a young woman, I spend countless hours in the California forest with only my cat, Sesame, for company. And I felt completely safe to do so. Now, I wonder sometimes if I’m safe at the grocery store.

Today’s world is different. I don’t know if it’s really more dangerous today or if it seems more dangerous because we hear about all the tragedies with the greater news coverage and social media.

Either way, the world isn’t always safe. But we can change it. We can create a safer world for ourselves and for the children growing up.

Here are 10 things each of us can do starting today:

  1. Stop supporting movies and TV shows that glorify and perpetuate violence. We take in the violence we see, and with surround sound and big screens, we take in the violence at deeper and more destructive levels.
  2. Deal constructively with your own anger. Anger energy destroys if not dealt with constructively. Instead of stuffing your anger until it comes out in a rage, deal with angry feelings by recognizing them and voicing them effectively. If you can’t deal with anger constructively, get help.
  3. Exchange living in fear with living in love. Fear is contagious and so is love.
  4. Don’t let children play violent video games and don’t play them yourself. For children especially it’s often hard to discern where a game ends and life begins. There are enough scaries hidden under the bed. Don’t add more.
  5. Reach out to others, especially if you notice a person is lonely or depressed, or you notice a young person is being bullied. If you do not feel safe reaching out, then don’t, but if you can, do.
  6. Report to authorities—and teach your children to report—any suspicious activity you see or suspicious posts on social media. If the authorities don’t take you seriously, make the report again until they do. You can also report to another agency. Suspicious activity does not mean to report a person because their skin is a different color than yours or because you don’t like them or because they speak with an accent. Suspicious activity is, for example, someone posting on social media how they are going to get even, and they have a gun.
  7. Stand up for peace. Attend peaceful rallies.
  8. If you own a gun, look at why you know you are able to take another life. Guns have one purpose—to kill. If you have a gun, you must know you are capable of killing another human being. If there are young people in your house, lock up those guns and do not give them the key.
  9. Speak up. On social media or in person, when you hear/read someone spouting hate propaganda, speak up/write. Use facts and truth to back your argument, and of course, speak up/write in an assertive and respectful manner.
  10. Donate to causes and politicians that support laws that make all of us safer.

Violence is epidemic in the US, and it’s up to each and every one of us to make a choice. Are we adding to the violence or are we doing our best to add peace to the world? It’s our choice. It depends on what kind of world we want to live in and create for our children.

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14 Ways to Change Fear-Based Emotions to Love-Based Emotions

Depression is a serious problem in our world today. Fear and anger rule too many lives. But we don’t have to live in these fear-based emotions. We can live in love-based emotions.

Following are 14 ways to change fear-based emotions to love-based emotions. These will help heal the blues and other fear-based emotions and change anger, fear, frustration, worry, anxiety, etc. to love-based emotions of happiness, calm, self-love and love for others, fun, laughter, etc. 

You’ve probably noticed, and wondered why, I chose 14 ways to change fear to love. Why not 15? There’s a reason. Keep reading and I’ll reveal why, but first–

Important that you understand–

  • These methods will NOT help if you are clinically depressed.
  • If you are thinking of taking your life, call 988 if in US.
    • Keep that number handy. Reach out to someone, a friend, a relative, a therapist.I am not a therapist; I am apsychic-intuitivespiritual leaderpublic speaker, andseminar leader who has learned to live her best life and wants to help others live their best lives.I’m also a writer, with 6 books published, including Joy! The Art of Living a Happy Life, 52 practices to create happiness and break the addiction to unhappiness.
    • This book might help you. If you think it will, you can order it from Amazon, the link is on my website, www.dianarankin.com. Some of the processes aren’t in the book so save this article if you find it helpful.

3 things you need know for these methods to work–

  1. Make it simple. Every emotion is either fear-based or love based.
    • Fear-based emotions are anger, jealousy, frustration, impatience, anxiousness, depression, etc.
    • Love-based emotions are calmness, happiness, joy, caring, empathy, compassion, laughter, etc.
  2. Be aware of what you are feeling and acknowledge the emotion as coming from fear or love.
  3. You must want to be happy. That sounds silly. Doesn’t everyone want to be happy? Well…no. Sometimes it’s easier to stay in misery than do the work to be happy, or at least that’s what some people seem to think. But you’re not one of them. You want to be happy and are willing to put forth the effort. So–
    • Be aware of what you’re feeling. Once you know what you’re feeling, and decide it’s worth the work to be happy, you can then make the decision to change whatever the fear-based emotion is to a love emotion.
    • This is work that isn’t always easy, but it’s well worth the effort.

Here are the 14 ways to change fear-based emotions to love-based emotions:

  1. This is an easy way to exchange fear for love once you recognize you are experiencing a fear-based emotion. Every emotion is either fear-based or love based.
  • You’ll need 2 small items of different colors—stones, beads, pieces of paper, etc.
  • One represents fear-based emotions (red bead for example)
  • One represents love-based emotions (green bead for example)
  • When feeling anger or any fear-based emotion, hold the red bead in your hand; look at it, ask yourself questions. For example–
    • Am I angry at someone I love because they won’t listen to me?Does it help me to be angry?Do I get what I want when I’m angry?
    • What’s in it for me to be angry?  
  • Then look at the love bead, smile, and make a conscious choice to move to love, to calm.
  • This is also a good time to go deeper & work on healing an old pattern, ask yourself–
    • Why does this make me angry?
    • Do I feel unheard? Unseen? Unworthy of having an opinion?

2. Mountain top—a friend told me this years ago when I was down and out.

  • Hold your left palm up flat.
  • With your right fingers, climb up your left palm while imagining that left palm is a mountain.
  • Once you climb the mountain, you are at the top, simply flip over and you’re still at the top. Stay there on top for a while and enjoy your life.
  • Every mountain we climb gets easier…and seems smaller because every time we learn how to climb that emotional mountain, we have the skills to climb easier, so the mountain seems smaller and the climb easier.

3. Picture a cone because life is circular.

  • As we go around the circle of life, the circle gets smaller and easier. This is because, like the mountains we climb, everything we go through makes it easier when it’s presented to us again because we’ve learned how to get through. Plus, and this is a big plus, we’ve healed a lot of that emotional baggage and catch ourselves before we fall off the cliff into the fear-based emotion.
  • Remind yourself of this and soon you’ll start to notice this is true.

4. Mirror self-talk is when you look into a mirror and look, really look, at that person looking back at you.

  • As you look back at yourself, tell that person in the mirror how worthy and deserving they are of love. Tell them how important they are to life. Tell them they are beautiful, handsome…whatever they need to hear.
  • Depression and other fear-based emotions are a
    • lack of feeling worthy
    • lack of feeling deserving
    • lack of self-love
    • It’s time to change the narrative and give yourself loving self-talk.
    • This won’t be easy for some, but every day, at least once (twice is better) morning and evening, or whenever you feel down, give yourself a little mirror self-talk.

5. Share a tree’s energy.

  • Find a sturdy tall tree with deep roots such as an oak or hickory. Short-rooted trees, such as maples, are not the best for this process. Let your intuition guide you in this process. Trust yourself.
    • Ask permission to share the tree’s energy. Don’t worry if you feel the tree is saying no. It’s merely not healthy enough at this time to help you. Find another tree.
    • Hug the tree and feel its energy.
    • Then put your spine into the tree. You may feel/see your energy.
    • One side of your body may feel/look darker.
    • Feel/see your own energy changing to lighter energy. 
    • Then imagine your feet reaching into the ground with the tree’s roots—grounding yourself.
    • Now raise your arms and let yourself soar with tall the tree’s branches.
    • Know that you can soar and be grounded at the same time.

6. Self-talk in nature

  • Go for a walk and talk to yourself. If you can’t go for a walk, simply step outside and look around, look at the ground, look at the sky.
    • Ask those hard questions—
      • Why am I angry, fearful, worried, etc. Ask to be released from these emotions.Give any fear-based emotions to Mother Earth or Father Sky by asking and holding your hands in the direction of either Mother Earth or Father Sky, and then imagining the emotions flowing out of your hands.
    • Now dance. If you can’t dance, imagine yourself dancing with joy.
    • Tell yourself you are replacing this fear-based emotion with love.

7. Give the emotion a name and talk to it.

  • For example, Hank is my anger. As a girl I wasn’t allowed to express anger. As an adult, I had to learn what anger felt like. It was scary! So, I gave it a name, Hank, and promised to work with him if he promised to not body slam anyone.
    • We all get angry at times; we all experience fear-based emotions.
      • Recognize the emotion.
      • Name the emotion.
      • Then work with the emotion. Let it work for you, not against you.

8. Stare at a candle or an object.

  • Keep staring until the fear-based emotion passes.
    • Meditate if you can; if not, just keep staring at the candle until you relax and you’re able to deal the with emotion in a loving way.

9. Smile, simply start smiling.

  • Changing the muscles in your face helps the emotion to pass.
    • Then do the work—ask those questions.

10.  Laugh-yes you can-just start laughing, soon you’ll laugh at yourself.

 11. Journal or draw about the emotion until you’re able to understand it and release it.

  • Keep asking those questions and go deeper until you have the answer to what’s beneath the emotion.
    • For example: Do you feel heard? If not, do you feel worthy of being heard?
    • Write until you find the answer. You do know. If you think you don’t, write until you find it.

12. Write down an affirmation and carry it with you; paste it every place in your house where you will see it often.

Put it inside a cupboard, next to your computer, on your bathroom mirror, etc.

13. Repeat the words bless you and bless me. When that driver cuts you off and you want to show him a little finger language, instead of getting riled up, simply say bless you and bless me.

  • You may start through gritted teeth but keep saying bless you, bless me until you feel the change of energy. You might even start laughing.
    • Use this whenever someone gets under your skin and you find yourself in that quick-temper mode.

14. 3 breaths—When we breath we don’t give it a lot of thought, but when we do concentrate on the breath, it is in the stomach and chest areas. These 3 breaths engage all of you.

  • Take that 1st deep breath in and using your imaginal mind see, as well as feel, your chest and back expand—exhale and see/feel the breath leaving your body.
    • Take the 2nd breath. See and feel the breath move up into your head, filling your brain with the breath, then see the breath move into your feet. Exhale and see/feel breath leaving body.
    • Take the 3rd breath see and feel your sides expanding, expanding to the left and to the right with the breath. Exhale and see/feel breath leaving body.

Some of these processes are easier than others. Changing a fear-based emotion into one of love isn’t always easy. It does get easier (remember the cone) the more we choose love over fear.

This doesn’t mean we’ll never feel fear or anger or worry again. It means we don’t have to live there.

Now why 14 methods? In numerology 1 + 4 = 5, which is the number of freedom. So, my friends, it’s time to be free of those fear-based emotions and live more of your life in love.

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Best and Worst Food for Intuition

What we put into our bodies has an effect on our intuitive abilities. It makes sense, but not something we give much thought to. We should, however, because there is a direct link between the food and drink we take in and how well our intuition works . . . and let’s face it, we always want our intuition to be spot on.

My awareness of how food and drink affects my psychic abilities began when studying with one of my teachers, Angel Gail Konz. Over the many years since, I’ve passed along that information and added my own discoveries. Everyone who registers for my Awakening to Your Deeper Intuition workshop receives a letter that includes suggestions to follow in preparation for the weekend. One of the suggestions is that certain foods be eliminated.

That list starts with red meat. Why? There are two reasons, the first involves our physical bodies and the second involves the energy we take in.

Meat takes more energy to digest, using more vital life force than it takes to digest fresh vegetables, for example. The digestive system has to work harder, so energy is drawn away from the upper energy centers that feed the brain, third eye, heart and some senses, such as sight and hearing, all of which aid our intuition.

We take in the energy of that which we put into our bodies, so when we eat meat we take in the energy of that animal. If the steer, for example, was slaughtered and butchered in a sacred manner, with prayers being said, the energy will be less intrusive than with an animal that is rounded up and transported in a less humane way.

Does this mean we should be come vegetarians if we’re trying to develop our intuition? No. Unless you’ve made a conscious choice to be a vegetarian or vegan, there are times when we want to eat red meat while developing our intuitive abilities. Red meat helps to ground us. If we’re floating into the deeper realms of intuition and touching on psychic or mystic abilities or if we’ve become so empathetic that it’s hard to function around others, we need to ground ourselves, and red meat can help us do that. (Salt also helps ground us as does standing on the right leg, which stimulates the left brain.)

Saying a prayer thanking the animal for giving up its life to sustain ours is always a good practice. The prayer, said with the intention of love, lightens the energy and helps our bodies digest easier.

Although I’ve been a semi-vegetarian off and on throughout my adult life, several years ago I reintroduced red meat back into my food selections. About the only red meat I can tolerate is a hamburger now and then, and it’s always when I need more grounding. Even as a semi-vegetarian, I left fish and eggs in my diet, in part for the protein, but mainly because it’s easier to find food when I travel to speaking engagements and workshops.

In addition to red meat, cut back on, or eliminate, sugar, carbohydrates, and junk food. As we develop our intuition, our bodies will react unfavorably to unhealthy foods. Our higher self is always pushing us to fulfill our soul calling and live our greatest life.  To do so requires we treat our bodies as the sacred vehicle they are.  

Also, cut back on or eliminate caffeine. Do not suddenly stop caffeine. Doing so will cause headaches and other caffeine withdraw symptoms such as fatigue, anxiety, and so on.  Caffeine is a stimulate that causes more anxiety than awareness. If we’re tired, caffeine can help us be more alert, but to develop awareness, we want to slow down the mind rather than put it in hyper-drive.

Now that we know what to avoid, let’s look at what to increase. I bet you can already guess that we need to increase a plant-based diet – fresh vegetables, nuts, seeds and beans, fruit, and substitute coffee for herbal tea. All of these aid the body for good health, which in turn, allows us to put our energy toward developing intuition.

While developing intuition, eliminate and cut down on

  • red meat
    • caffeine
  • sugar

Increase

  • fresh vegetables
  • nuts
  • seeds
  • fresh fruit (in moderation)
  • herbal tea (in moderation)

Regardless of the diet we choose, we need to listen to our intuition to know what is best for our bodies. If we’re craving red meat, our bodies might be telling us that we need to be more grounded. If our stomachs turn over at the thought of red meat, we need to pay attention and eliminate it from our diet, at least for now.

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Philomena and My Father

“I wonder if he ever thought of me.” These words spoken by Dame Judith Dench as Philomena in the film with the same name, grabbed at my heart and took me into my own question: I wonder if he ever thought of me.

In the film, Philomena was questioning whether the son, who had been taken from her by Irish nuns and adopted by an American family, ever thought of her. It was the same question I had about my father. First released in 2013, the film is based on the book The Lost Child of Philomena Lee by Martin Sixsmith. It’s the story of a woman who searched for her birth son for 50 years. My story wasn’t a film, or a book, and it wasn’t about a son; it was about a parent.

I cannot speak of a mother whose child was taken from her or of a birth parent who gave up a child for adoption. I can speak of a child who grew up not knowing a birth parent. I did think of you Father . . . again and again and again. And I wondered: did you ever think of me?

I met my father when I was 19. It was the first time I had seen him in nearly 16 years. I knew him only in memory of my three-year old self. That’s when he left our family – my mother and brother and me. I can still see us sitting on that concrete park bench at Woodland Cemetery in Dayton, Ohio, the cemetery where his parents are buried. I still see the white ducks with their orange bills open, quacking for food as they come out of the pond toward us. I still see the sunlight sparkling across the quiet blue pond water, still feel the spray of the fountain. I still see my father smiling at my brother and me. Even then I knew he was sad. It was a sadness of depth, a sorrow that I could not understand as a child. Still do not. It was a pretend laughter that he presented to us, a face put on for children.

Did I ask him why he was sad? I might have. I don’t’ remember. I do remember that I didn’t ask him when I saw him again when I was 19 and the deep sorrow was still there. It was behind his eyes, in the way he held his shoulders, and the way his hands rested in his lap. It was by his hands that I recognized him. They were my hands, long and slender fingers, unlike my mother’s or brother’s. It was in his hands that I saw my own heritage and the long line of ancestors from which I come.

I didn’t want anything from him. I didn’t want any money; he didn’t have any anyway. I didn’t want a relationship or to ask him to love me. It was all too late for that. All I wanted was to meet him, to look once again into the eyes of the man whose genes and DNA help to make up me.

But that desire, that need to meet him, was not well received by my family. It caused my mother terrible hurt and anguish. Although we never spoke about it, I’m sure she questioned the wisdom of family silence where any information about him was concerned, and I’m sure she questioned how much I loved her if I wanted to meet this man who had caused her so much pain. My big brother, always protective of our mother, was also upset with me. How could I hurt our mother so?

It is not something that can be understood – this need to find your birth parent(s) – by those who know the history of their genetic make-up. It is not a logical need, especially if you’ve had a good life and good parents. It is almost a biological, inborn need, inherent to the human spirit just to meet this person who helped to provide you with life.

I don’t know if everyone who does not know a birth parent has this need that I had. In the end, my brother had the same need. He too met our father, and it was our mother who gave me the clue that led me to him. That must have been hard for her. Only in hindsight am I able to realize how much she loved me to make that kind of sacrifice.

I don’t know if my father made any sacrifices for me. I think his leaving our family might have been a sacrifice, one that took me years to understand, appreciate, and be grateful for. Still, I wonder if he ever thought of me, if he loved me. I’ll never know. He’s dead now. There’s no one to answer that.

I know in a way I loved him, or loved the fantasy I made him to be. And maybe Philomena answered the question for me: as the child thinks about the birth parent, the birth parent thinks about the child and wonders if s/he ever thought of me.

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Transgender and the Evolutionary Shift of Humans

Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place. Paulo Coelho

Scientists teach us that the male brain is different from the female brain. If someone’s brain is telling them that they are a male, but their body is that of a female, they are a male regardless of what their body looks like.

If, from a soul perspective, a person chooses to help usher in the new evolution of humans who are non-gender specific, they might choose to be non-gender specific or chose a brain that is different from what the body is.

Seldom do we see aliens as gender specific. What if aliens are really humans from a future time. What is they exist in another dimension and are coming into this third-dimensional world to help us grow into greater understanding of human life.

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On the Way to Grace . . . Living the Spiritual Path

Those of us who choose the spiritual path always think it’s going to make our lives easier, at least most of us think so when we start out, but too soon we get it that living our lives in a sacred manner is no walk in the park.  At least that’s been my experience.

The next person over may have an easier time of it, but for most of the people I know it’s not written on their birth certificate that “this one shall have an easy life.” For most of us it’s the opposite, and we get to wondering why life can sometimes seem so difficult when we’re such good people and trying our best to be better.

I know the answer to this. “Let go. Go with the flow. Be One with All. Stay in the Moment. Stay in the Love. God/Spirit/Creator, your angels and guides are all with you. I know. I know. I teach this stuff. But teaching and living it are not necessarily the same, and sometimes life is just plain hard.

Even when I know how to make it easier, life can be a challenge that I don’t always feel up to meeting.  Now I have to admit it has gotten easier the more I practice what I teach, or at least the times of angst are shorter and maybe a little less severe. I beg and plead and stomp my feet less and say thank you more. 

I have to admit though that most of the time I’m pretty happy and may go for months in a state of deep contentment with long periods of feeling a jumping-up-and-down excitement and joy. Still there are those times when I walk-off-the-front-porch-and-get-lost-in-the-woods as I refer to the getting lost in worry or sorrow or fret about something or feel stuck when I want to be on the fast track.

Fortunately, these days I don’t stay lost in the woods for too long, but it wasn’t always so, and I remember those times well. Times where I would wake in the middle of the night afraid of what I didn’t know. Afraid of being able to pay the bill. Afraid of getting sick or afraid…Just afraid. Times when I wondered if I really could wake up the next day and get through it. Times when I didn’t want to wake up the next day to get through it.

These times may come back, but fortunately they are not here in this day, and that’s the point—those days of the dark night of the soul do not always linger. Our lives may never be the Garden of Eden and Nirvana may only be glimpsed now and then or may even only be a promise of something that could be, but a promise nevertheless that we can hold onto in hopes of a better tomorrow.

And this is, I believe, what the spiritual path is—a sacred walk through all the human experiences to find that true heart’s desire—union with God, with the Light. It isn’t always about life being easy. It is about continuing to take that next step regardless of the hardships, perhaps even maneuvering between them. 

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