Even if you consider yourself fully mature—and few of us do if we’re past our twenties—your inner child likes treats and needs to play. The lack of feeding and considering your inner child can keep you from the happiness you desire.
It takes neither a great deal of money nor time to feed your inner child. All it takes is creativity and being in touch with yourself. . . and having a temper tantrum now and then. A what? A temper tantrum.
I’m impatient. I want what I want when I want it, and usually that’s now. I admit to not being fully mature. When I want something, I begin with a clear intent and a prayer of gratitude for that which I want manifesting in my life. Contrary to what I just said, I can be patient—for a little while. If what I want doesn’t materialize right now, I’m willing to look at what I’m doing to block it’s admission into my life. Okay, that’s all cleared. Now it can come. Unhun. Now!
Well, you and I both know, it just may not come when I say it should just because I say so, even if I think I’ve cleared the blocks. So, I return to patience, but eventually as time goes by and what I want still does not materialize, I might reach a point where I just snap and have a temper tantrum. Fortunately, I live in a woods at the end of a nine-hundred foot lane. The only ones who see or hear me are my pets and the deer, squirrels, raccoons, chipmunks, and other assorted wildlife and winged ones. I’m sure they get a great laugh at watching me puff up my torso and arms akimbo stomp a foot or two while I clomp around in the meadow letting Spirit know that I haven’t yet received what I asked for. And I’ve asked in such a nice way. So American of me. So spoiled rotten, high-maintenance of me. Still, it works.
This is not a big temper tantrum with letting go of a primal scream. This is just a little temper tantrum—a little foot stomping or a bit of arguing with Spirit. After a rousing argument of “Do it my way and do it now!” you will find yourself laughing when you get that the joke’s on you. The person you’re really arguing with is yourself, so skip this phase once you have that figured out and go right into the next phase—treating yourself, your inner child—the real fun of this process.
This part you have to figure out for yourself. How can you treat yourself? There are a few parameters you want to follow. Your treats should be within your budget and should not in any way harm you or anyone else. For example, treats can be food, but not heavy fatting foods if you are trying to lose weight and the ice cream cone will make you feel guilty later, or should you buy something or take a trip you can’t afford. These are self-destructive acts; they are not treats. Self-destructive acts do not feed the inner child.
Your inner child is satisfied with pretending something is real. Remember there is a child within the adult. For example, if you like to buy things, unhappiness comes from not being able to buy something because you think you can’t afford it. Instead of buying it and feeling guilty and producing more unhappiness, go on a pretend shopping spree.
Actually, spend time in very expensive stores full of all the goodies you wish you could buy. Be very clear with yourself that you could buy anything in this store that you want, but you are choosing to not buy anything, because you haven’t found anything you want. You’ve found things you like, but nothing you really want to spend your money on . . . even though you could. The trick here is the clarity with yourself that you could buy IT if you wanted, but you don’t really want to. This clarity satisfied your adult while the act of shopping satisfied the inner child.
Be creative with yourself. Find those things that treat your inner child and watch the inner smiles begin. Pretty soon you’ll have no need for a temper tantrum.