Creating happiness for yourself may not be the easiest task you’ve ever tried, but it certainly is worth it. Imagine yourself in the flow of life, where that which used to irritate you now seems so minor, or at least not worth leaving your happy state to indulge yourself in anger, resentment, sorrow, or any other emotion that does not serve your desire to be happy.
We are not talking about superficial happiness where we deny grief or close our eyes to the world’s sorrows. I’m talking about a deep sense of wellbeing that stays with you regardless of what the outer world is showing you each moment in time. As I’ve often said, might as well be happy even when life seems to suck, because the alternative isn’t any fun.
Learning to be happy is a process. You might also know getting and staying happy is no walk in the park. It’s work! You are rewiring your brain, creating new grooves and replacing old patterns. It took a long time to get unhappy; it may take some time before happiness is your normal, but you can get there. Be patient with yourself.
Keep returning to happiness every time you walk away. When you become angry, instead of dwelling in the anger, let it go and return to happiness. Eventually happiness will become the more normal state. Does this mean you’ll never get angry? No. What will happen is that you’ll live more in happiness with occasional experiences of anger rather than living in anger with occasional experiences of happiness.
Think for a moment how you wake in the morning. Do you wake with a dread of the day that faces you? Do you wake in a panic? Do you want to just fall back asleep and not get up? The way we set our day in our minds is the way our days will unfold. Maybe not every day, but this process will certainly help you get past waking up depressed and carrying that through your day.
Each morning get into the habit of waking up about 15 minutes before you normally do either by setting an alarm or setting your internal clock through suggestion before falling asleep. Stay in bed, in that dreamy state where you are not yet quite awake. In this highly suggestive state, use your internal voice for internal dialogue and for silent singing. Let me suggest the song I used for years and still return to when I need a little morning pick-me-up: “Oh what a beautiful morning, Oh what a beautiful day; everything’s coming up roses; everything’s going my way.” Add a couple of zippy do das and you’re all set.
Spend this time planning your perfect day. What does it look like? How do you want it to unfold? Visualize as strongly as you can what you want for your life today. Most of all, see yourself happy and jumping up and down with joy.