One of the most often asked questions people come to me with is how can you contact your spirit guide. I’m big on having a guide to help you through what may often seem like a quagmire of information, to guide you in the right direction, and to help interpret those clues we as humans so often miss.
As those of you know who have studied with me or have attended one of my speaking engagements where I give audience members messages from Spirit, you know that I work with a spirit guide named Phillip. You might also be familiar with Phillip if you use my oracle book, The Master’s Book of Answers by Phillip.
We met many years ago when I had a mystical experience during a meditation. I asked his name. He told me it was the second name down under “Ps” in my name book. That’s when I learned he had a sense of humor and was going to make me work at what I wanted. All these years later, his humor is still intact and he still asks my best from me, not that I always deliver it, but I do my best to do my best.
So how do you meet your Phillip? The following steps should help you do just that:
1. Ask to meet the spirit guide who is your communicator (see step 2 for how to call him in). We all have multiple guides, angels, teachers, healers, and loved ones in spirit world who are willing and wanting to help us. Think about what it’s like if you’re in a room full of people, all of whom want to help you. You receive multiple messages, not all of them the same. What do you do? To whom do you listen? I suggest you listen to the one I call the communicator or your main spirit guide.
The communicator is someone who pulls it all together, and using discernment as to what you do need to know, communicates the message to you. Chances are that you’ve spent time in other life experiences together, so this guide knows how to speak in a language you can understand. Often the communicator has been one of your teachers.
Usually, but not always, the communicator is a male energy. This is because the male energy is the more outgoing of the male-female energetic dynamic.
If you are more comfortable at this point working with a loved one in spirit world, by all means do so. Ask to work with that person’s highest self so the messages you receive are coming from divine source.
2. To call in your communicator spirit guide, get a blank book and a writing utensil. This will become your journal, one of the best ways of communicating with your guide. Do not allow yourself to be concerned with using proper grammar or spelling, etc. The purpose of journaling is twofold: Writing can allow you to move into a meditative state where the words seem to appear on the page by themselves, which happens when you move past the monkey mind and into a deeper state of consciousness; and you will have a written record of your conversations with your guide that you should go back and reread. You will be surprised at your insight and the wisdom you have recorded.
Before going to sleep, put your journal, with writing utensil, at your bedside. Give yourself the pre-sleep suggestion that you are going to meet your spirit guide who is the communicator tonight. Around 4:00 a.m., you’ll wake.
One participant in my workshop Awakening To Your Deeper Intuition, swore she wouldn’t wake at 4:00 a.m. She had been too excited to sleep after our Friday night session, and didn’t go to sleep until after 2:00 a.m. Still around 4:00, she woke. “Suddenly I was wide awake,” she said. “I thought it was morning and started to get out of bed when I looked at the clock. It was 4:02!”
When you wake, start writing. Just write. It doesn’t matter what you write. Just keep putting words down on paper. Write about what you’re grateful for. Write about how tired you are. Write about why you want to develop your intuition. Write about anything. After about four or five pages, you’ll start to leave the monkey mind and move into a more meditative state. It is in this state that you’ll be able to start communicating with your spirit guide.
Here you can ask questions such as, “Are you my communicator spirit guide? By what name may I call you? How will I know when you are wishing to give me messages?”
Once you and your guide have spent time together, you’ll be able to access him anytime, anywhere, and immediately.
3. Set up tests. For example, if you want to make sure you have received the correct name for your guide, you might say that you’ll meet someone with that name or a similar one within the next 24-hours. That’s what one workshop participant – Donna – did.
Donna participated in the workshop when I held it in the on my land. During her 4:00 a.m. session, her guide told her that his name was Henri, but she would know him as Henry. She questioned how to trust this information, so I suggested she set up a test. She decided that she would meet someone named Henry before she arrived at her home at the end of the workshop on Sunday night.
Three times that weekend I suggested to her that she stop for gas on her way home. Each time she told me that she didn’t need gas, but finally heard me. “I’m not going to stop anywhere around here, because you might know one of the local attendants is named Henry,” she declared.
Sunday evening she drove the 90 minutes to her home, stopping at the gas station near where she lived. She was putting gas into her vehicle when someone pulled up behind her. When the man got out of his vehicle, Donna started laughing. “You’re Henry, aren’t you?” she asked with astonished laughter.
“I am. How did you know?” the man asked.
4. Build a relationship. Like any friendship, it takes time to learn how you and your guide best work together. And it takes nurturing this relationship. Daily, spend time in journaling with your spirit guide. Talk to him. If you are touched by a beautiful sunset, invite him to see it through your eyes, for example.
Follow the guidance you are given, even if it seems nonsensical. For example, you may feel an urge to get off the freeway and stop for a bite to eat, even though you aren’t really hungry. Still, you listen. As you are eating, you hear the sirens and learn there was an accident that occurred minutes after you got off the freeway.
Your guide will NEVER—NEVER—tell you to do anything that is not in your best interest or that of all others. If you think you are being told to do something that is not coming from LOVE, STOP! A spirit guide is here to help make your life better and the life of all beings better. Anything that tells you to hurt yourself or anyone else is a danger to you and to others. You must stop immediately and get help from a qualified professional. This is NOT coming from your spirit guide.
5. Be patient and keep working with your guide. Chances are you’ll soon learn that you’ve been working with this guide your entire life, but now you do so in a conscious way. It will get easier as you become more familiar with this new language. Soon you’ll be saying how grateful you are that you took the time and effort to get to know this great inner resource.